Whether you are faced with difficult choices, predictable transitions, or unforeseen life changes, I hope you will find some of the resources below to be helpful to you on your journey.

The Age of Miracles: Embracing the New Midlife
Marianne Williamson

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends
Bruce Fisher

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
Stephen Covey

Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes
William Bridges

The Way of Transition: Embracing Life’s Most Difficult Moments
William Bridges

Things Fall Apart: Heartfelt Advice for Difficult Times
Pema Chodron

Last week, Dr. Gary Newman was on Good Day NY promoting his new book, The Truth About Cheating. During his interview, he listed these 4 signs of a cheating spouse:

• More time away,
• Less sex,
• Avoids contact and cell phone calls, and
• Starts fights and increases criticism.

He also listed 4 ways to prevent cheating include:

• Work on increasing the emotional connection,
• Spend time together on a daily basis,
• Schedule date nights, and
• Monitor friends.

What I know about cheating is that the real problem in the relationship started long before the cheating.  Cheating is just the symptom.

When a couple is in a good place i.e. when both individuals are feeling respected, engaged, and wanted, cheating can’t happen.  If you aren’t in a good place with each other, then cracks (in a relationship) happen and . . . if cracks happen, then cheating is a very real risk . . .  regardless of how much you both may love each other.

Whether you are dealing with the loss of a loved one, a precious relationship, a fantasy, or a job, I hope you’ll take some time to check out some of these resources to support you on your journey.

A Time to Grieve: Meditations for Healing after the Death of a Loved One
Carol Staudacher

Afterwords
Ellen Steinbaum

Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow
Elizabeth Lesser

Gentle Closings: How to Say Goodbye to Someone You Love
Ted Menten

The Grieving Time: A Year’s Account of Recovery from Loss
Anne M. Brooks

Living When a Loved One Has Died
Rabbi Earl A. Grollman

The Second Half of Marriage: Facing the Eight Challenges of the Empty Nest Years
David and Claudia Arp

Solace: Finding Your Way through Grief and Learning to Live Again
Roberta Temes

Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life
Debbie Ford

When Someone You Love is Dying
Norma S. Upson

Working It Through: An Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Workshop on Life, Death and Transition
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.

Grief: Coping with Reminders After a Loss

If you are aware of other books / websites / blogs that can offer support for those grieving, I hope you will introduce yourself and leave them below.

I don’t really like separating the physical body from your spirit and mind.  However, for the sake of providing some resource to support you in caring for your body, I have done just that.  Here are some of my favorite tools to help you on your journey.

Injury: Learning to Live Again
Dorothy L. Mercer, Ph.D.

Living with Chronic Fatigue: New Strategies for Coping with and Conquering CFS
Susan Conant, Ed.D.

Mainstay: For the Well Spouse of the Chronically Ill
Maggie Strong

Prayer and Our Bodies
Flora Slosson Wuellner

The Wisdom of Menopause
Christiane Northrup, M.D.

Women’s Body’s, Women’s Wisdom
Christiane Northrup, M.D.

The Empowered Patient

I hope you’ll let me know what you think of the books and websites above and add your own favorite resources below!

As long as we’ve been talking about verbal abuse, I thought you might like some resources to help you improve your communication.

BrainStyles: Change Your Life Without Changing Who You Are
Marlane Miller

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D

When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within
Matthew McKay, Ph.D., Peter D. Rogers, Ph.D., & Judith McKay, R.N.

The Center for Nonviolent Communication

I hope you’ll add your favorite resources for improving communication below!

I am a fan of listography. There’s a book by this name, The Listography Book. And, there’s a web application by this name.  But what I’m talking about is the use of list-making to document your ideas, to document your journey, and to help you get started (or re-started) with your journaling.

Have I got your attention, yet?  If so, perhaps you would like to get started! Here’s an idea for that first journal entry . . . . How about a list of lists?  Just take the time to brainstorm a list of things that you think might be of use or interest to you down the road . . . . Later on, when you feel like it or whenever you get stuck and don’t know what to journal about, you can return to your listography,your  list of lists, choose one and begin to create it!.

Better yet, share your list with me right here!