She watches, like a puppy
waiting for affection or a treat.She watches—yet rarely
is there a gentle touch,
or loving eyes.Instead, his eyes
are gunmetal.
His words are razors.You’re getting fat.
What do you do all day?
You parent like your mother.
Where did you get that outfit?
You forgot to get my cleaning again.
It’s beyond me how you got a degree.
Your friends say they don’t like you.
You missed a spot when you vacuumed.
You forgot to use heavy starch on my shirts. Again.
You get an allowance because you can’t handle money.
All I ask is that you do what I ask.
You can’t do anything right.She watches. And he turns, as though
she is a curl
of dog shit that one
would dispatch into sand
with a quick kick of his Nike.He never touches her. With his fists.”
Archive for July, 2010
He Never Hits Her
Monday, July 19th, 2010What Is It You Learned To Live With?
Monday, July 12th, 2010If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.”~ Excerpt from the poem Children Learn What They Live by the late Dorothy Law Nolte
Resources For Caring For Your Body
Monday, July 5th, 2010I don’t really like separating the physical body from your spirit and mind. However, for the sake of providing some resourcea to support you in caring for your body, I have done just that. Here are some of my favorite tools to help you on your journey.
Injury: Learning to Live Again by Dorothy L. Mercer, Ph.D.
Living with Chronic Fatigue: New Strategies for Coping with and Conquering CFS by Susan Conant, Ed.D.
Mainstay: For the Well Spouse of the Chronically Ill by Maggie Strong
Prayer and Our Bodies by Flora Slosson Wuellner
The Wisdom of Menopause by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
Women’s Body’s, Women’s Wisdom by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
I hope you’ll let me know what you think of the books and websites above and add your own favorite resources below!








