I don’t know if anyone has ever told you this but . . . counselors have favorite clients. I have favorite clients. The truth is that you are one of my fabulous and favorite clients if you are:
- Resilient i.e. my client who keeps getting back up when you are knocked down;
- Interested in new ideas and open to new ways of seeing;
- Courageous – and by that I mean you are ready to face your fears;
- Willing to experiment with your life, try new things, and take new risks;
- Able and willing to adapt the things we talk about to make them fit for you and your situation (rather than simply dismiss what you hear);
- Involved in projects and work that benefits others;
- Value-oriented and recognize that your relationships with others and with me are valuable;
- Naturally collaborative i.e. you contribute to and focus on your opportunities and successes;
- Bright, full of light, and are easily excited about the possibilities for your life;
- Positive and naturally optimistic;
- Really clear and understand the 90 / 10 law. (90% of my value to you will be outside of the time we spend together.) You try the strategies that we discuss, you change them to suit your particular situations, and you report your feedback to me so that we can continue to tweak our work together;
- Enthusiastically telling other people that you know about my services and our work together.
If you aren’t my client right now but you found yourself on this list, feel free to call me when you need a counselor. New fabulous and favorite clients are always welcome!
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Hi Tamara,
Thanks for sharing your wonderful writing with the world! I love reading your articles.
Now I am very worried that I can’t be my therapist’s favorite client, because I am not naturally optimistic nor do I improve quickly. The favorite client you describe sounds like someone who is perfect and practically does not need therapy. Sigh… I so wish I could be my therapist’s favorite!
Anyway, thanks for sharing, and I wish your success in your work and life.
Sincerely, Rebecca
Hi, Rebecca! Thanks for reading my blog!
Not to worry! I’m thinking that if you enjoy working with your therapist, you probably are a favorite client! No one is perfect and I’m not looking for perfect — I’m just looking for a good “fit” with my clients. If you really enjoy your work with your therapist and your don’t fit my list, she most likely has a different list of characteristics for her favorite clients!
Blessings to you on your journey . . . and I hope you’ll drop back in and comment often!